The right thing to do

wondered by Joana Galhardo 36 wonders Tags , ,

You've always hear people talk about how cathartic it is to let your anger out, or how much better they feel after, and you've probably heard, at least once, things like "if you keep your anger bottled up, one day you'll just snap!"
You have, haven't you?

Well, things like squeezing stress dolls, screaming into a pillow or hitting a punching bag are examples that we've seen offered as healthy alternatives to walking up to the object of your anger, and beat the hell out of it.

The thing is that expressing your anger, even against inanimate objects, doesn't make you less angry at all. In fact, it actually makes you want to get pissed off.  You see, we have these things called habits. When we do something, and it makes us feel good, we want to do it again. The rush of anger is addictive, and letting yourself lash out as a means to control your anger is just like drinking to control your urge to drink.

So yes, I agree that letting your anger out is not a solution. BUT, you just simply can't keep bottling things up, because you are not angry at first, you're just bothered by something. The thing is that if you don't talk about that, you start bottling all those little things that bother you, and that will indeed make you angry or very, very annoyed or upset.

And then you snap, and do something stupid like overreact over something insignificant.

So what’s the right thing to do at this point?
Well, some people choose to keep overreacting like they have any reason to do so. They choose to let things take exaggerated proportions because they don't have the balls to admit that they've made a mistake. But I'm afraid to tell you that this is not the right thing to do.
know the difference

Oh no. Even if you think your twisted logic is right, you need to talk with the other person. You need to explain yourself. You need to show them that you, at least, valued your relationship more than you value your insufflated ego, and you need to deal with whatever consequences this may come with.

Wonder about that! ...and grow some balls, 'cause I'll bloody wait.
it's never the wrong time to do the right thing

Wonder #7

wondered by Joana Galhardo 15 wonders Tags ,

This is the time where I won't find you later
I'll say what I want and hope you’ll remember
I will announce it right now, I'll lay it on the line
It's now or never, I'm running out of time
You know it's killing me to hold it in
I'll spill these words ‘cause my patience is wearing thin
I'll tell you how I feel, all words are allowed
And you'll know I love you, I'll say it out loud
I'll say exactly how my heart is beating
Once it comes out there's no deleting
I just hope this time I won't blow it
I’m afraid ‘cause sometime soon I'll know it
No words from my lips will be untrue
I must know this story ends without you

Haters gonna hate

wondered by Joana Galhardo 13 wonders Tags , ,

Have you ever got that feeling that life's a bitch? ...Only to realize that it's not the life that's a bitch, but the people in it?

Here's a newsflash, people aren't always very nice to each other. From insecurities, to anxieties over whatever, some can be total bitches.

The problem is that a lot of the bitchy behavior you see is misplaced emotion.
They're hyper-emotional, over-competitive, they take constructive criticism personally and hold personal grudges when they feel they've been challenged or criticized.

Some are afraid of confrontation and because of this they harbor resentment. They live with that resentment and they take it with them to everywhere. So they're bitches simply because it makes them feel better about themselves.

And why is that? Well, they're not happy. They're not confident. They do not have a strong sense of themselves. They need to put somebody down to feel better about who they are in life.
They should build some self-confidence and channel all that jealousy in more productive ways than being bitchy to those they feel threatened by.

"But why are you assuming that? Maybe those people have a plausible reason to act like that! Maybe it's you who are wrong and need to do something about that!" – You may say. 
Oh yes, dear imaginary person in my head, yes, you're quite right! What I need to do is very simple. I need to accept that that person is irrefutable a bitch. I need to let that person win every argument discussed. I need to do everything that person wants me to do, and say what that person wants to hear, to, in the end, make that person happy, and therefore, eliminating any possible excuse to be bitchy about.

The problem with this is that this is not something that changes, stops at adulthood, or whatever. Oh no. Don't jest yourself believing that this it's just a phase or that this was the last time.
It's never-ending! Once a bitch, always a bitch! They may deceive you, be nice for while, gain your trust. And then BAM, the bitch is back.

So unless you want to lose all sense of yourself, and become a robot that do as others please. You need to stop caring and stop mingling with those people. Those are not your friends. Those are bitches!

And that’s where I am right now, too exhausted to even try. I chose not to go along with those bitches’s crap.
Wonder about that! - Or don't, I don't care.

Fact - Chameleons do not change colors to blend in

wondered by Joana Galhardo 20 wonders Tags

Yep. Chameleons change colors, not to blend into their background, but depending on a number of emotional states. They change color when frightened, mating, fighting, etc.

"But I've seen photos/videos of a chameleon blending into the background!" - Yeah, but that's because they change so often, that eventually they'll match their backgrounds!

A chameleon would have little use for blending in, because their main prey, insects, tend to have an eyesight unfit to spot them when they are still; and being an apex predator, chameleons don't tend to have any natural predators.

Wonder about that!

The magic of the slow clap

wondered by Joana Galhardo 9 wonders Tags

So we all have seen in some movie the slow clap. It has the power to sway the opinion of an entire crowd.

Yep, somehow, that one dude who starts clapping is capable of convincing everyone else that what has been said is incredible awesome. So that single sound gradually swells into a massive applause.

Yeah I know, as a concept, the slow clap seems absurd. I mean, how could an entire crowd be convinced that they like something just by hearing one person clap? How?! – You may ask – HOW?!!

Well, apparently, even the most opinionated and judgmental people in the world are susceptible to the power of group mentality (as said in a previous post).

Gustave Le Bon suggested that when people come together in crowds, they start to identify with the group at large instead of as an individual. The opinions of the crowd become the opinions of each person like a mass hypnosis.

So, every change in the crowd has a ripple effect on the collective conscious and can determine the thoughts and opinions of the rest of the group.

You usually see this effect in riots. The slow clap is basically the same thing…You know, without the acts of violence and all that.

A single person clapping in a crowd can immediately trigger the same response from everyone else because they are subconsciously serving the interest of the group, until finally, everyone is in agreement that they love whatever just happened.

Wonder about that!

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