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The looking glass
So, as a woman, I take pride in having a giant ass mirror in my room.
Maybe you guys who have to go to the bathroom to check your hair and don't care how the clothes you're wearing fit won't get this but, trust me, any woman would kill for a mirror like mine. It's practical and useful, for obvious reasons...Well, obvious for the feminine gender of course. Nonetheless I'll sum it up for you males. Clothes, hair, make-up and overall figure.
Anyways, this looking glass it's not only useful for these things. It has one more trick up its sleeve!
As you all probably have seen in movies, there's a cliche scene where the protagonist has a one-on-one pep talk with himself in the mirror, and usually happens when he's faced with an ethical decision or he needs to boost his confidence.
Yes, in reality, doing this would seem silly, but you have to admit you have done this at least once!
Okay, maybe you didn't talk, maybe you didn't point to the mirror pretending you have a gun, maybe you didn't say "Are you talking to me?"; maybe you just thought to yourself "I can do this!"
...Or maybe you did all of this. No judging here.
Studies have been conducted to determine how confrontation with our own reflections affects our morality. One, conducted on Halloween, gave kids the opportunity to grab candy out of unsupervised bowls. The bowls were exactly the same at separate houses, the only difference was that one bowl had a mirror behind it. As a result, the children were significantly less likely to steal candy when they had to look at their reflections, even though they were wearing costumes! and a similar test was done on adults at a news stand who paid for newspapers on the honor system. The results were nearly identical. We are more likely to act morally while confronted with our own faces.
So, it seems the looking glass is used as a moral compass...And if you know someone with spectrophobia (fear of mirror and one's own reflections), beware!
Wonder about that!
Maybe you guys who have to go to the bathroom to check your hair and don't care how the clothes you're wearing fit won't get this but, trust me, any woman would kill for a mirror like mine. It's practical and useful, for obvious reasons...Well, obvious for the feminine gender of course. Nonetheless I'll sum it up for you males. Clothes, hair, make-up and overall figure.
Anyways, this looking glass it's not only useful for these things. It has one more trick up its sleeve!
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| Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all? |
Yes, in reality, doing this would seem silly, but you have to admit you have done this at least once!
Okay, maybe you didn't talk, maybe you didn't point to the mirror pretending you have a gun, maybe you didn't say "Are you talking to me?"; maybe you just thought to yourself "I can do this!"
...Or maybe you did all of this. No judging here.
Studies have been conducted to determine how confrontation with our own reflections affects our morality. One, conducted on Halloween, gave kids the opportunity to grab candy out of unsupervised bowls. The bowls were exactly the same at separate houses, the only difference was that one bowl had a mirror behind it. As a result, the children were significantly less likely to steal candy when they had to look at their reflections, even though they were wearing costumes! and a similar test was done on adults at a news stand who paid for newspapers on the honor system. The results were nearly identical. We are more likely to act morally while confronted with our own faces.
So, it seems the looking glass is used as a moral compass...And if you know someone with spectrophobia (fear of mirror and one's own reflections), beware!
Wonder about that!
Your mood, your responsibility
So you had an argument with your better half / parents / friends? You've been having a financial stress? Dealing with health issues? Problems at work?
Oh, and did I mention you just woke up to that annoying disco song?
Hm?
What more could go wrong, right?
Well, everything else could go wrong as a matter of fact, but that's not why I'm addressing to you today.
At this moment, as you struggle through your day, there's a whole world of people out there who have no idea that you exist. They don't know your name, your problems, your fears, your goals, your hopes and dreams. And you know what? They don't care either. To them, you're just a human body. Another robot.
A pile up of problems, however, has a tendency to make you stand out by turning you into a bitch / douchebag. That's right, I said it. Bitches and douchebags.
We have the power to make someone else feel like a huge piece of...poop. And that's not right. You have to realize that everybody isn't that annoying; you're just in a bad mood and you have to stop yourself before unleashing your rage and say things that you might later regret.
I know, sometimes the dam breaks, and you find yourself yelling, being mean and clearly taking the issue out of proportion. And, at this point there's only one thing to do here, really. Come clean, apologize and explain your situation. Maybe they'll understand and tell you that it's okay.
But it's not.
And it's important that you remember this. People don't owe you a thing. They don't have to put up with you while you put your shit together.
...Unless you're Fluffy, the destroyer of worlds, then you're cool.
For your own sake, you cannot let yourself get used to people adjusting their actions because of your irritability. If everybody did that, you would come to expect it, and that's how egomaniacs are born.
This goes for every struggle in your life. Remember when I said everything else could go wrong? Yeah, it's true. And when you survive that, another thing will be behind it.
Wonder about that.
Why do women take so long to get ready?
So here's a post some men will be interested to read. How could it possible take so long for women to get ready? I mean, it's just a dress and a pair of shoes, right? WRONG!
Yeah… You would think that it would be easy and simple... But you're wrong. There's a whole lot of things that can cause this and, as a woman, I'm going to let you in on this “secret”.
Firstly, you have to realize that not all of them take so long to get ready, and the amount of time spent to get ready depends on two variables – the kind of event she's going to attend and the degree of her vanity. So, obviously, the more important / special / fancy the event is, and the vainer she is, the longer it will take.Then, probably the simplest answer is that she's trying on clothes. As you may be aware, women usually like to wear new outfits to special events. And, understandable, as most women aren't wasteful enough to buy a new dress every time, she's probably going to want to combine the dress with a different pair of shoes, or a different shawl. Thusly, she's got an awesome new outfit combo planned!
And here comes the trouble. As simpler as this could be, the downside of a new and exciting outfit is that it's an untested outfit! And this means that, even though that skirt theoretically should have gone with that shirt and shoes for a smart and modern look, once you try them on, apparently you look like a school girl and, however some could find it hot and sexy, it's a bizarre look for that event.
So then you panic and swear and start grabbing other pieces that you think will fix this and then it's the shoes that are wrong for that other skirt, and then you have to change the bra because the one you have it's not right for that other shirt you chose, and then it's the tights that are wrong for that new outfit… It's very exhausting and time consuming!
Obviously, the logical solution is to test the outfit ahead of time, which some women do…sometimes. However, women, like all human beings, procrastinate, so this happens about as often as anyone actually studying for a test early or doing their thesis on time.
And this is all before makeup and hair! You don't even want to get me started on this. Mainly because I don't know much about it, but from my experience, either you go simple and easy, or you want to try something new and elaborate and it takes time…Oh so much time. Specially the hair… Definitely the hair.
Wonder about that!
The self-esteem glitch
The self-esteem thing has been hammered into our brains for decades, based on the belief that high self-esteem types achieve more in school, make and keep more friends and, in general, function better as a member of society.
And why is this pure bullsh*t? Well, this seems to be one of those deals where they've confused correlation and causation.
So, rather than thinking "Maybe kids with high self-esteem feel good about themselves because they get good grades in school and have lots of friends", they decided to flip that thing around! For some reason, they think that they succeed because they have self-esteem. So they tried to teach people to feel good about themselves for no other reason than pure entitlement, figuring that the actual reasons for feeling good about themselves would follow at some point later.
This results in some kids having too much self-esteem, a breed of human that scientists classify as douchebags and bitches. Yes, for the purpose of this post, those are technical terms.
And stop laughing. Well, stop chuckling or sniggering then! I'm not kidding!
Research shows that kids who have an inflated sense of self-worth become aggressive when their sense of superiority is called into question, leading to a more damaging fall when they realize what a loser they are.
I'm certainly not an expert, but it would seem like the solution would be to teach the stuff that leads to success, you know, like social and communication skills, better strategies at dealing with stress, etc.; and just let that lead naturally to success and thus self-esteem, rather than just bypassing all that and going right for the self-esteem part.
Wonder about that!
You don’t want to know the truth; you just want to be right
Think about the last time you had a spout with a coworker, family member, or friend.
You have? Well let's continue then.
So when they were shown proof that their conspiracy theory or imagination of a plot against him/her, or any other irrational reason to be arguing, was wrong; did they back down? Did they get this look of realization on their face and said "Wow…If this is untrue, then maybe the other ‘facts’ upon which I've based my fringe beliefs also aren't true. Thank you for helping me rethink my statements!"? …Well?
Yeah, that's right. That has literally never happen in the history of human conversation. Whether it's a politician whose point has been refuted, or a conspiracy theorist that has been definitively proven insane, or that friend you're thinking of while reading this; they will immediately shift to the next talking point, or conspiracy theory, or foolish argument that backs up their side, not even skipping a beat. They'll keep fighting to defend their position even after is factually shown to be untrue.
But, apparently, that's the entire reason human invented arguing.
This is called the argumentative theory of reasoning, and it says that humans didn't learn to ask questions and offer answers in order to find universal truths. We did it as a way to gain authority over others.
Yep, they think that reason itself evolved to help us bully people into getting what we want. As it seems, these cognitive flaws are adaptations to a system that's working perfectly fine. Our evolutionary compulsion is to triumph, even if it means being totally and illogically proudly wrong.
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| Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level, and beat you with experience |
Therefore, during your next argument, remember that you do this. If you're a human being, what you (some more than others) do best is ignore facts in favor of advancing your side. Selective attention/memory, some call it.
So, next time you find yourself being reasoned by more than one person, stop. See if you can put the brakes on and actually say "Wait a second. If the things I'm saying in order to bolster my argument are consistently wrong, then maybe my argument is also wrong."
Yes, it's going to be hard. Admitting you are wrong to the person you are debating with it's the hardest thing to do for some people. Notwithstanding, one of these days, being able to admit you're wrong will be the greatest skill you can develop if you want to stay in a relationship with whomever.
Wonder about that!
The right thing to do
You've always hear people talk about how cathartic it is to let your anger out, or how much better they feel after, and you've probably heard, at least once, things like "if you keep your anger bottled up, one day you'll just snap!"
You have, haven't you?
Well, things like squeezing stress dolls, screaming into a pillow or hitting a punching bag are examples that we've seen offered as healthy alternatives to walking up to the object of your anger, and beat the hell out of it.
The thing is that expressing your anger, even against inanimate objects, doesn't make you less angry at all. In fact, it actually makes you want to get pissed off. You see, we have these things called habits. When we do something, and it makes us feel good, we want to do it again. The rush of anger is addictive, and letting yourself lash out as a means to control your anger is just like drinking to control your urge to drink.
So yes, I agree that letting your anger out is not a solution. BUT, you just simply can't keep bottling things up, because you are not angry at first, you're just bothered by something. The thing is that if you don't talk about that, you start bottling all those little things that bother you, and that will indeed make you angry or very, very annoyed or upset.
And then you snap, and do something stupid like overreact over something insignificant.
So what’s the right thing to do at this point?
Well, some people choose to keep overreacting like they have any reason to do so. They choose to let things take exaggerated proportions because they don't have the balls to admit that they've made a mistake. But I'm afraid to tell you that this is not the right thing to do.
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| know the difference |
Oh no. Even if you think your twisted logic is right, you need to talk with the other person. You need to explain yourself. You need to show them that you, at least, valued your relationship more than you value your insufflated ego, and you need to deal with whatever consequences this may come with.
Wonder about that! ...and grow some balls, 'cause I'll bloody wait.
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| it's never the wrong time to do the right thing |
Haters gonna hate
Have you ever got that feeling that life's a bitch? ...Only to realize that it's not the life that's a bitch, but the people in it?
Right.
Here's a newsflash, people aren't always very nice to each other. From insecurities, to anxieties over whatever, some can be total bitches.
The problem is that a lot of the bitchy behavior you see is misplaced emotion.
They're hyper-emotional, over-competitive, they take constructive criticism personally and hold personal grudges when they feel they've been challenged or criticized.
Some are afraid of confrontation and because of this they harbor resentment. They live with that resentment and they take it with them to everywhere. So they're bitches simply because it makes them feel better about themselves.
And why is that? Well, they're not happy. They're not confident. They do not have a strong sense of themselves. They need to put somebody down to feel better about who they are in life.
They should build some self-confidence and channel all that jealousy in more productive ways than being bitchy to those they feel threatened by.
"But why are you assuming that? Maybe those people have a plausible reason to act like that! Maybe it's you who are wrong and need to do something about that!" – You may say.
Oh yes, dear imaginary person in my head, yes, you're quite right! What I need to do is very simple. I need to accept that that person is irrefutable a bitch. I need to let that person win every argument discussed. I need to do everything that person wants me to do, and say what that person wants to hear, to, in the end, make that person happy, and therefore, eliminating any possible excuse to be bitchy about.
The problem with this is that this is not something that changes, stops at adulthood, or whatever. Oh no. Don't jest yourself believing that this it's just a phase or that this was the last time.
It's never-ending! Once a bitch, always a bitch! They may deceive you, be nice for while, gain your trust. And then BAM, the bitch is back.
So unless you want to lose all sense of yourself, and become a robot that do as others please. You need to stop caring and stop mingling with those people. Those are not your friends. Those are bitches!
And that’s where I am right now, too exhausted to even try. I chose not to go along with those bitches’s crap.
Wonder about that! - Or don't, I don't care.
Why women go to bathrooms in groups?
You may think there is a kind of secret or ritual, when it's really very simple!
When we watch TV, we all wait for commercial breaks to go to the bathroom, so we won't miss anything. But when you're out, or doing whatever, there aren't any designated "commercial breaks".
When it comes to double dates or so, they might see it as a good time to catch up with each other and how they think their dates are going. Maybe say what they think of each other's dates. Just like men enjoy the play-by-play in sports, ladies enjoy a play-by-play on dates, but it's very rude to do it right in front of the guy.
It might also be just sympathetic companionship, because some bathrooms are filthy and all broken, and another person there could be very convenient for purse holding or helping shutting the door and other stuff like that.
So, basically, there could be many reasons for that; it's not a ritual or a secret plan!
Wonder about that!
You, sir, are an idiot
Wrong title to start this blog? Well, please, indulge me.
You are constantly being bombarded with information, as a student, you spent your entire day moving from one room to another and getting pelted with facts about everything. That's what you do your whole life, you sit there while someone tells you about History, and when that's done someone tells you about Biology, and then you move on and someone teaches you Math, and whatever more they can. To a twenty-something, you cover what seems like an impossible spectrum of information, every single day. So, surely, you must know something!
So here's what's going to happen. At one point, you will honestly believe that you have every single thing figured out. You'll reach an epiphany where you'll understand yourself, you'll know what you want to do with your life, you'll know what kind of partner you're looking for and so on. And exactly two years later, you'll say something along the lines of "I was an idiot two years ago! How could I've thought that? Now I've really got it figured out." And then, two years later, you'll do the exact same thing! In fact, you will repeat this process every two years.
Life pretty much seems about looking back on your past self and realizing how stupid you were, until you'll reach the point where you'll say that you are an idiot right now.
So this is what the world is made of, a bunch of idiots doing a series of things until the world explodes and we all die.
Wonder about that!
